What is Emotional Pain?
Emotional pain can be described as heartache that results from a painful experience, such as the loss of a loved one. It can stem from depression, anxiety, disappointment, fear or guilt, and tends to worsen when you replay and relive painful, traumatic events that occurred in the past. Emotional pain can become crippling when it affects your mood, relationships, personal and professional life, and it occupies your mind constantly.
What Causes Emotional Pain?
Many people experience emotional trauma during their childhood due to a variety of factors such as neglect, abuse, abandonment, or loss of parent. Emotional pain during adulthood may occur due to the end of a relationship, divorce, loss of a loved one, being a victim of crime, substance abuse, retrenchment or loss of employment.
Often, where severe trauma is experienced, the person may be continuously haunted by recurring nightmares and mental images, as in the case of a war veteran or a rape victim.
Others who suffer from emotional pain may find themselves unable to stop dwelling on past hurts and disappointments, and may struggle to let go of the painful memories. They may find themselves in a cycle of guilt and punishment - reliving the event over and over again in their minds.
As a result an individual may fall into depression. They may find themselves plagued with feelings of worthlessness or hopelessness. Some hide their pain or avoid facing their emotional trauma by resorting to self destructive behavior such as alcohol or dug abuse, aggression, repression or denial. Although it may seem like a coping mechanism, these actions are usually a cry for help – and for a proper way of coping.
Help for Emotional Pain
There are effective ways of coping through emotional pain and letting go of the traumas of the past. Dealing directly with your emotions and acknowledging emotional trauma is the first step to healing.
Treatments that aim to help you claim your life back and put things into perspective include:
- Counseling and psychotherapy
- Cognitive behavioral therapy
- Spiritual therapy
Natural and holistic therapy can also offer help with coping through emotional pain as well as providing comfort and reassurance for the person suffering from emotional trauma. Herbal and homeopathic remedies are 100% safe, non-addictive and effective in relieving the symptoms of emotional pain, lifting mood and reducing anxiety. Herbs commonly used include Hypericum Perforatum (St. John's Wort), Skullcap and Passiflora, as they have calming and sedating properties.
Homeopathic treatment can also be very helpful, depending on symptoms and the constitutional makeup of the individual. A homeopath or naturopath will be able to advise you on natural remedy that suits your emotional needs.
As a holistic approach seeks to treat the underlying causes, and not just the symptoms of emotional trauma, a greater understanding of the affliction is achieved leading to well-being and harmony.
More Information on Emotional Pain
While you coping through emotional pain, it is important that you are good to yourself. Treat yourself well by focusing on yourself and your own happiness, while at the same time taking the necessary steps to work through the pain that you are dealing with.
Tips for Handling Emotional Pain
- Eat healthy, well balanced meals
- Get sufficient rest
- Release physical stress through gentle exercise such as stretching
- Practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation or yoga
- Keep a journal where you can record your feelings and emotions – this will also help you to become more in tune with yourself and locate the source of your pain
- Speak to someone that you are comfortable with and trust
- Take long, warm baths
- Treat yourself to a massage or spa treatment
- Express your pain creatively by painting, writing poetry or songs or scrap booking
- Join a support group and share your experience with others who may have been through the same thing
- Remember that you are special and unique – and deserve to lead a happy fulfilling life!