Before using the term premature ejaculation, it is helpful to understand the basics of ejaculation. Ejaculation is a direct response to stimulation. Considering it as a benchmark for sexual prowess can often be erroneous.
Consider a situation where your partner, extremely aroused during foreplay and stimulation, experiences more than one orgasm before penetration and you ejaculate immediately on penetration. Can this be termed as a premature ejaculation just because it took only a couple of thrusts? In fact it was otherwise an extremely satisfying sexual episode and measuring ejaculation with time and number of thrusts is not necessarily an accurate representation of the experience.
Ejaculation is relative to stimulation, and qualifying it as ‘premature’ is a misnomer. Often, it is the partner’s expectations and demands for prolonging the episode which lends credence to men that they are ejaculating prematurely. Your partner may always expect more than you can provide because it is has been established that most women (a vast majority of them) are unable to reach an orgasm only with penetration and the stimulation associated with vaginal intercourse.
However, there are instances where young men ejaculate even at the slightest touch during their first sexual experience. The same person may be able to hold an ejaculation after a substantial number of thrusts at a later date. Time taken to ejaculate is also dependent upon age, the personality of the partner, the time since their last orgasm and other factors, which have no connection with sexual prowess.
Humans have evolved in way that sex has become a mode of recreation and expression of masculinity or womanhood. It is not only a natural process of procreation. This has given undue importance to holding ejaculation for as long as the partner wants you to, and has therefore led to coining the adjective ‘premature’. Today this has resulted in perceptions that lead men to believe that premature ejaculation is a disorder. It leads most men to look for sexual performance products like creams, injections and other premature ejaculation treatments.
Much to the chagrin of most men, it is normal for an average healthy male of 30 to ejaculate in 1 to 3 minutes after steady vaginal thrusting. It is also normal for men to want to ejaculate quickly. At the same time, to prolong the recreational aspect of sex, men also feel the need to exercise control over ejaculation. Strong healthy males are more likely to have a satisfying sex life even with advancing age. At the same time, it’s not uncommon for the strongest ‘looking’ male to ejaculate rapidly, much before his partner would want him to. It is the inner strength and the stability of the mental frame that matters the most. Psychological factors play an important role in the time taken to ejaculate. For example, before becoming intimate, the more you think about holding an ejaculation, the earlier it is likely to happen.
It is not as if the problem of premature ejaculation does not exist, but it should be evaluated on the basis of the above observations and not based only on your and your partner’s expectations. If premature ejaculation treatment is required, it should be based on an objective evaluation and efforts should be made to look for solutions that focus on improving overall health including sexual health. Dietary modifications, natural remedies, herbs and homeopathy provide a safe solution that does not have any negative impact on your sexual performance.